In a new interview with Esquire Mexico, the 67-year-old Grease actor shared what he learned about grieving the death of his wife.
“I learned that mourning someone, living in grief, is very personal,” John said. “Grief is personal and finding your own path is what could lead to healing. It’s different than someone else’s journey.”
John continued, “The most important thing you can do to help people going through grief is allow them the space to live it and not complicate their journey with your own.”
John announced back in July 2020 that Kelly had died following a battle with breast cancer. She was 57-years-old.
“Like, imagine if you lose someone and you’re very sad at the funeral, and another person comes up to you who is feeling even sadder and then doesn’t leave space for you to feel your grief,” he added. “It becomes two ships plummeting to the bottom together. That’s my experience. Because, although it’s nice to have company, sometimes it turns you into someone helping the other person instead of putting in the work of overcoming the sense of loss and grief.”
“You have no idea how many people have come up to me… and afterward I’ve felt saturated with everyone else’s pain that I didn’t know what to do,” John revealed. “The first thing you should do while going through grief is go somewhere where you can truly mourn, with no interruptions.”